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Okay people...
Lately I have seen an abundance of comments on peoples photos via instagram, and these comments are not the nice kind. They are absolutely disturbing and unnecessary.
If you're scrolling through your feed and you see a photo that someone posted - that you're clearly following - and the photo is of something that you don't necessarily enjoy (like them in minimal clothing), why do you feel the need to stop, comment and send?
Okay, I get it. You're most definitely entitled to freedom of speech, but that doesn't give you the right to ridicule someones appearance just because you don't like what they post.
I actually posted a video on my YouTube channel talking about this, and it seems that there are people out there so oblivious to the fact that although in a perfect world comments wouldn't hurt you or leave a scar, we do not live in a perfect world. We live on Earth, where the society we are growing up in is twisted and sick. There's no way in hell that every single person out there can simply dust a rude comment off their shoulders. That is why there are campaigns out there to promote healthy body image and loving yourself for who you are. That's why so many girls hate themselves, or aren't pleased with how they look. It's all because of asshole people who find nothing better to do than belittle someone for something that they don't like.
Now don't get me wrong. I'm not sitting here saying that I'm a saint because I've never been mean to someone before. Trust me, I have been a catty little bitch in the past. I have said some God awful things to other females because, well, I'm a human and as a human we make shitty decisions. That's in the past. As you grow up you begin to realize that words aren't just words. They can tear someone down to the bare minimum. They can make someone smile for hours. A word can do SO much and have such a positive or negative reflection on the person you're saying it to. That's why I always choose my words carefully and think before I blurt out just anything.
If you don't like how someone's dressing, or you don't like their make up, or something else about them bothers you, keep the comments to yourself. Are they hurting you by living the way they are? Are they disrupting your ever-so-perfect world because they posted a photo in a bra although they don't have a flat stomach? Have you just lost everything you've worked so hard to gain because they don't excite you? Everyone's so quick to say they don't care what other people do and it's their life, but yet in the same breath they're insulting or trying to dictate another persons way of living. How did the world become so contradicting?
The sad truth is that we are now living in a society where the way you look determines whether you succeed or fail. Not only in the sense of their appearance naturally, but also in the sense of being different in whatever way you'd like to be. Not everyone is going to meet your criteria of "perfect" or "attractive" and although you might feel the *need* to be a complete dick hole for no reason, you should probably take a deep breathe and think about why you're going to say the things you're thinking. Everyone should take a step back and for once actually put themselves on other peoples shoes.
You really don't know anyone's life story. What if someone posted a photo of their body because for their whole lives they struggled with body dismorphia? What if they struggled with bulimia or anorexia and FINALLY they are starting to feel better and become healthy, so they post a photo as a step forward and you just blow that to pieces by telling them they're fat, too skinny, ugly, disgusting, or that you "wouldn't touch them with a 10 foot poll" - that's one I've seen quite a bit. You do not know if your comment is going to tear someone to pieces, you don't know how it's going to make them feel. So what really gives you the right to do it? Ask yourself that question. What the fuck gives you the right to be so arrogant towards someone else that you don't even know?
As someone who's heard every fat name in the book, I understand the impact it has on people and how hard it is to let those things go. When you hear the same thing over and over and over and over, you start to believe it. If you got told every day that you're useless and will never amount to anything, you're going to start asking yourself "what am I good for?" and you're going to start doubting yourself until you DO become useless. You'll become a shell of what you once were. It goes the same for being name called and ridiculed for something that you were born with. It takes a lot to let go of those comments and start believing that you're worth so much more than what those people made you out to be. Starting to love yourself is a tough thing to conquer when you've known nothing but self-hate.
As and ending note to this, all I want to say is it's about time that people start to see others as humans and equals. No one is perfect. Just like the saying goes, "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" and just because your vision of beauty may not to be the girl sitting beside you, doesn't give you the right to tell her she's ugly because the honest truth is, to someone out there she's drop dead fucking gorgeous.
Lately I have seen an abundance of comments on peoples photos via instagram, and these comments are not the nice kind. They are absolutely disturbing and unnecessary.
If you're scrolling through your feed and you see a photo that someone posted - that you're clearly following - and the photo is of something that you don't necessarily enjoy (like them in minimal clothing), why do you feel the need to stop, comment and send?
Okay, I get it. You're most definitely entitled to freedom of speech, but that doesn't give you the right to ridicule someones appearance just because you don't like what they post.
I actually posted a video on my YouTube channel talking about this, and it seems that there are people out there so oblivious to the fact that although in a perfect world comments wouldn't hurt you or leave a scar, we do not live in a perfect world. We live on Earth, where the society we are growing up in is twisted and sick. There's no way in hell that every single person out there can simply dust a rude comment off their shoulders. That is why there are campaigns out there to promote healthy body image and loving yourself for who you are. That's why so many girls hate themselves, or aren't pleased with how they look. It's all because of asshole people who find nothing better to do than belittle someone for something that they don't like.
Now don't get me wrong. I'm not sitting here saying that I'm a saint because I've never been mean to someone before. Trust me, I have been a catty little bitch in the past. I have said some God awful things to other females because, well, I'm a human and as a human we make shitty decisions. That's in the past. As you grow up you begin to realize that words aren't just words. They can tear someone down to the bare minimum. They can make someone smile for hours. A word can do SO much and have such a positive or negative reflection on the person you're saying it to. That's why I always choose my words carefully and think before I blurt out just anything.
If you don't like how someone's dressing, or you don't like their make up, or something else about them bothers you, keep the comments to yourself. Are they hurting you by living the way they are? Are they disrupting your ever-so-perfect world because they posted a photo in a bra although they don't have a flat stomach? Have you just lost everything you've worked so hard to gain because they don't excite you? Everyone's so quick to say they don't care what other people do and it's their life, but yet in the same breath they're insulting or trying to dictate another persons way of living. How did the world become so contradicting?
The sad truth is that we are now living in a society where the way you look determines whether you succeed or fail. Not only in the sense of their appearance naturally, but also in the sense of being different in whatever way you'd like to be. Not everyone is going to meet your criteria of "perfect" or "attractive" and although you might feel the *need* to be a complete dick hole for no reason, you should probably take a deep breathe and think about why you're going to say the things you're thinking. Everyone should take a step back and for once actually put themselves on other peoples shoes.
You really don't know anyone's life story. What if someone posted a photo of their body because for their whole lives they struggled with body dismorphia? What if they struggled with bulimia or anorexia and FINALLY they are starting to feel better and become healthy, so they post a photo as a step forward and you just blow that to pieces by telling them they're fat, too skinny, ugly, disgusting, or that you "wouldn't touch them with a 10 foot poll" - that's one I've seen quite a bit. You do not know if your comment is going to tear someone to pieces, you don't know how it's going to make them feel. So what really gives you the right to do it? Ask yourself that question. What the fuck gives you the right to be so arrogant towards someone else that you don't even know?
As someone who's heard every fat name in the book, I understand the impact it has on people and how hard it is to let those things go. When you hear the same thing over and over and over and over, you start to believe it. If you got told every day that you're useless and will never amount to anything, you're going to start asking yourself "what am I good for?" and you're going to start doubting yourself until you DO become useless. You'll become a shell of what you once were. It goes the same for being name called and ridiculed for something that you were born with. It takes a lot to let go of those comments and start believing that you're worth so much more than what those people made you out to be. Starting to love yourself is a tough thing to conquer when you've known nothing but self-hate.
As and ending note to this, all I want to say is it's about time that people start to see others as humans and equals. No one is perfect. Just like the saying goes, "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" and just because your vision of beauty may not to be the girl sitting beside you, doesn't give you the right to tell her she's ugly because the honest truth is, to someone out there she's drop dead fucking gorgeous.
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